Why Coaching Works for Women with ADHD
I still remember my very first coaching session.
I was 35, sitting nervously in a large, purple, velvety chair — and that day changed the course of my life.
Up until then, I’d never really known what a coach was. Like many of us, I assumed coaching was about someone giving you advice, telling you how to fix your problems, or helping you “get organised.”
But what I discovered that day was something far more powerful - and far more transformative.
On Paper, My Life Looked Perfect
At the time, I was living overseas in Cape Town, South Africa. From the outside, it looked like I was absolutely thriving — a well-paid, prestigious job, global travel, remote work (which was rare back then!), and a beautiful lifestyle with a retired partner at forty.
It was a classic Instagram highlight reel moment — tanned, smiling, cocktail in hand, with the mountains behind me.
The kind of photo that makes someone scrolling from a rainy flat in England think, “She’s got it all together.”
But the truth beneath that image?
I wasn’t happy. Not really.
I felt lost - guilty even - because I should have been happy. I had everything I’d been taught would bring happiness… yet it didn’t feel right. It wasn’t my dream.
Something inside me was quietly whispering, “There’s more than this.”
Living the dream?… or doubting my choices?
The Magic of My First Coaching Session
Then came that first session. My coach, Glenn, had this calm, grounded, and deeply compassionate energy.
He didn’t judge. He didn’t tell me what to do.
Instead, through simple yet powerful questions, he helped me see what I couldn’t see on my own.
That’s when I realised what true coaching is.
It’s not about advice. It’s about awareness.
It’s not about being told what to do — it’s about reconnecting with the wise, intuitive part of yourself that already knows the answers.
Why This Matters So Much for ADHD Brains
If you have ADHD, you’ll know this well — being told what to do rarely works. It can feel disempowering or even triggering. Our motivation doesn’t come from “shoulds” or external pressure — it comes from meaning, connection, and emotion.
Coaching works beautifully for ADHD minds because it creates space — a safe, non-judgemental space — where we can untangle the noise in our heads and hear what’s underneath.
As Glenn said to me that day:
“When we’re in our heads, we’re in a place of fear, judgement, and doubt. But when we get quiet enough, our wisdom has room to speak.”
That truth changed everything for me.
The Power of Coaching
Through coaching, we start to access our own inner guidance — the part of us that knows what feels right.
And when we act from that place, change feels lighter, more natural, and far more sustainable.
That’s the magic of coaching:
We don’t get told what to do — we discover it for ourselves.
And when we do, it sticks.
Ready to Experience It for Yourself?
If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of where to start — ADHD coaching might just be the missing piece.
It’s not about fixing you (because you were never broken).
It’s about supporting you to thrive in your own beautifully wired brain — with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
Book a free introduction call and let’s chat about what’s possible for you.
Or explore our The ADHD Big Sister Coaching Programmes — designed to help you embrace your superpowers, create structure that works for you, and build a life that truly feels like yours.
Because you deserve to thrive, Sister 🧡